201703260845*善待暮年* *Be Kind to Twilight Years*---著名女作家 *杨绛*
*善待暮年* *Be Kind to Twilight Years*
於2016 年 5月，高齡105 歲過世.
Below is a message of famous novelist 杨绛 (YANG JIANG)written at age of 103, who passed away at age 105 on May 2016:
Seasons after seasons, we are unknowingly approaching our twilight years.
From the first cry on coming to the earth till the hairs turn grey, the baggage of our journey through life has filled with all bitterness and sweetness as well as ups and downs. For how far we walk on the path of our twilight years will depend on our physical, mental and spirit condition.
Life's glory and splendor are all behind us and we are now just going through the daily chores of keeping life going.
Once we yearned for a glamorous life, now we realize the most wonderful and romantic scenery in life are moments of tranquility.
Do not anxiously expect visitation of our children. They have their own lives to live; they are like tops being spun continuously, sandwiched between young and old. Old is dusk, young is dawn. We all are more concerned and have high expectation for the young; this is nature's law. It is human race survival cycle and no one can defy it. Please remember: our children is always more busy than us.
In life whether it is husband and wife or parents and children , no matter how harmonious and how close they are, each one is unique and an independent entity. Therefore we need to learn to cope with loneliness by finding ways to console and cheer ourselves up when feeling lonely.
In reaching our golden age, we have our self esteem and graciousness just like the cycle of four seasons, each has its grace and beauty. Smile & enjoy each phase of life.
Twilight years is the beginning of goodness in life. It is easy going, peaceful, unhurried and joyful. We have to maintain peaceful, less expectation, more inclusive and forgiving, not to over react when receiving attention or being ignored. To stay or to go does not matter anymore. Keep smiling while moving ahead each day and be kind to ourselves.
Being honest and sincere will make friendships last.
Do not expect for a return on what you have given to others, after all, making others happy is life's greatest achievement.